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The Big Picture and your personal challenge

This post is going to be quite different from my previous posts in that there will be a large amount of content contained in an executable, “interactive PDF file”. This is an experiment in giving the reader a large amount of information in a “visually interesting format” presented in organized, bite-sized, chunks. Don’t get me wrong, there are still lots of words, but I felt that it was important to present the material in a more holistic way than I could do with the words in “blog format” alone. I’ve also included a more “formal” 37 page PDF file of the same material as an option to those readers who prefer a more traditional style of documentation.

As an aside, the interactive document was created using Mindjet MindManager 8 SW. Frankly, I’ve been using the concept of mindmapping as a brainstorming, planning, and outlining tool for years and Mindjet’s SW in particular, since their first release. If you’re unfamiliar with the technique or their SW, I suggest that you take a look at their website by clicking here. This is an unsolicited and unpaid plug for something that I believe will serve you well as you continue to exercise and grow your “wolfie” abilities. Also, let me know if you’re interested in learning more about using mindmapping techniques to help you get through some of your complicated planning, brainstorming, and communications tasks….I’m always interested in teaching and assisting people in using these techniques to help solve tough problems that require creative ways to “peel back the layers of the onion”.

OK, now on to the subject matter…

I’m going to break up the cadence a bit by only briefly touching on the next two core words in the series, (traits and skills) and instead, concentrate on core word number six (behavior).

There really isn’t too much more that I want to elaborate about the nature of traits other than they’re deeply associated with our type, temperament, and the values we choose to live by. Within the PDF files, I’ve outlined some traits that are generally associated with each of the sixteen Personality Types and Temperaments, as well as the Values that I believe are important. I personally believe that we can all consciously employ our non-default traits, but this requires a deep understanding of who we are and what the situation that we’re facing, calls for…but hey, I’m getting ahead of myself…more about that later in this post.

Skills on the other hand, and soft skills in specific, really need to be elaborated upon, and are extremely important to discuss. However, I won’t attempt to lump such important topics into a single, general discussion, but rather over the life of this blog I will work through examples and tips pertaining to all of the soft skills that I’ve identified in the PDF files (and more that I haven’t touched upon). For now however, I hope that the included list will stimulate you enough to evaluate your own degree of proficiency in each, and add a few more that I’ve overlooked. The better we are at mastering these vital skills, the more significant our contributions become and the more influence we have over our own destiny and the destiny of the pack.

I also won’t be wasting your time by defining and dissecting all of the possible hard skills an individual might need to perform a given function. That would truly be a waste of words and bandwidth. I will in some future posts call out a couple of specific hard skills to take a deeper look at, but for now, suffice it to say, an individual needs some level of proficiency in the hard skills that are required to perform certain functions, and these hard skills are highly individualized to your specific situation. The more proficient you are at these, the more creative and productive you become…it’s as simple as that.

Now to get to the meat (or veggies for those of you who lean that way) of this post, which is Behavior. Behavior is the culmination of all the elements I’ve been discussing so far in this series, plus two more; Needs, and Experience. To me, the concept of behavior is best represented visually rather than with just a wordy description. By looking at it holistically, the individual components seem easier to understand, and hopefully you will be able to “connect the dots” and see what’s driving some of your own behaviors. My goal here was not to write some all-inclusive thesis on the subject, but rather to highlight the key elements necessary for individuals to consciously take charge of their behaviors and channel their energies toward becoming the wolf they want to be.

You may recall (if you’ve read the page on this blog titled So why wolves?), I highlighted three key elements (or overall behaviors if you will) to being a wolf, which are:

  • Situational Awareness
  • Situational Adaptability
  • Social Intelligence

In order to become proficiency in these, we need a fourth element, which is Self-awareness. We need to truly understand our own strengths and weaknesses in order to optimize our ability to perform well in ALL situations. This self-awareness doesn’t happen by accident, but rather by design. It begins, as I’ve stated before, by recognizing how we will likely react to both people and problems by DEFAULT. These reactions stem from our experiences, skills, values and of course, our personality type, but it doesn’t have to end there. Frankly, I believe that this is where it BEGINS.

We always have a choice as to how we react in any given situation. If we don’t take the time to think about what to do, we will ALWAYS jump straight to our default behaviors. Often, this is not a bad thing, but if you practice asking yourself if it’s “the right thing to do” FIRST, the outcome will likely be better.

We need to make a conscious choice each and every time we’re faced with a new challenge. We need to quickly (often, instantaneously) assess the situation and determine the best course of action. This process ALWAYS starts with asking the right questions (of ourselves and/or others) which is probably THE most important soft skill that needs to mastered.

This “pregnant pause” before jumping into action doesn’t have to be a slow and plodding process. It can be a mere split second of assessment of the alternatives, and frankly, the more you practice this ability to “think and ask before leaping”, the easier it gets. Obviously, life threatening situations are different from product development situations and fielding tough questions at your next Board Meeting. Each situation has its own time-line of urgency, necessary levels of accuracy and precision, and of course, its own set of consequences if you screw it up.

I suggest that the next time you’re facing a difficult situation, that instead of just “looking before you leap”, you “think before you leap” and ask yourself WHY you think what you’re doing (or about to do) is the right choice. Look at the situation from more than one perspective. Ask yourself what someone else who doesn’t know what you know, would do, or ask a trusted colleague what they would do in this situation. Of course, don’t get stuck in “analysis paralysis”, but start to try to think differently, and see if you have an epiphany. You may still come up with the same reaction (or answer), but at least you’ve given yourself an opportunity to look at other possibilities. Oh, by the way…if you’re standing on the railroad tracks and you see a train coming and you decide to take a “pregnant pause” to contemplate your options…don’t take too long, and by all means, “jump AWAY from the tracks!”….I can’t afford the bad press about how I suggested that “you think about it before you act”. 😉

OK, so to summarize this series in a nut shell… “To GROW your inner wolf, you must KNOW your inner wolf”. You need to understand what makes you, YOU. You need to determine whether your current values, traits, and skills are “good enough” or require “realignment”. You need to evaluate your experience and actively decide whether your needs are being met to your satisfaction. You also need to think about “what’s coming next, or better yet, actively decide “where you want to go”. You need to do all the hard work necessary to enhance the things you like, and change the things that are holding you back.

I hope that this series has inspired you to take a long hard look at yourself, and while I haven’t really provided any solid answers for you at this point, I hope I’ve posed enough of the right questions to get you thinking about who you are, and what you want to do to become the wolf you want to be.

The interactive PDF file can be accessed by clicking the image directly below

For those of you who are more conservative, and would prefer to access a more “classic” PDF document, click the Thumbnail directly below for the “boring version” 😉

Better yet, check out both versions and let me know which one gives you the best “feel” for the material, and while you’re at it, let me know what you think about the subject matter…I’m really interested in knowing whether this series has stimulated anyone’s brain cells other than mine!

© 2010 John C. Rea and nothingbutwolves.wordpress.com

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Listening to Your Inner Voice

Since my last post was agonizingly long for a typical blog posting, I’ll attempt to keep this one shorter and to the point…well, at least to the point anyway.

To continue fleshing out the first five core words, I find word three (Values) to be the trickiest one to nail-down in an objective way. As I mentioned in my previous post, the simple definition of Values is straight forward enough: A set of principles, standards, or qualities considered worthwhile or desirable.

But I, like everyone else on the planet, have my own ideas as to what qualities, standards, and principles are deemed “worthwhile”.

To me, values fall into two categories; personal, and communal or in other words; wolf, and pack. Pack values are commonly shared values and are deemed important, if not critical, to the survival or well-being of the members at large, while any additional “unique or evolved” personal values of a given wolf assist or drive that wolf’s destiny within the pack. While I’m convinced that there’s no universally accepted minimal set of values that drives everyone, I do believe that there are a select few core values that makes us wolves (assuming of course, that you still buy into the whole premise of this blog: wolves-good!, shepherds, cats, sheep and chickens-not so much!).

I’ve run across a wide variety of opinions on the subject of values over the years. Matter of fact, I recently came across a website that quotes 374 very specific personal values (CLICK HERE TO READ THEM ALL). Now frankly, there are many items on this list that I don’t consider to be “values” as I see them. I personally think of values as a set of deep-seated beliefs that fuel the fire within us. Many of the items on this list seem to me to be more like traits which are the quantitative set of actions that stem from our values. Of course, that’s just my opinion, and I encourage you to view the list and judge for yourself.

If I continue with the premise that values are synonymous with fundamental beliefs, then I can more easily collapse a huge list of potentially desirable “actions” into a few core values that I believe every individual who aspires to be a wolf needs to have. This is not an exhaustive list of personal values, but rather these are the values that each member of the pack needs to resonate with in order to maintain the cohesiveness of the pack. They’re defined IMHO by some of their associated traits, which are by-products (or actions if you prefer) of the belief:

  • Integrity – traits: honesty, openness, trustworthy, ethical, principled, honorable
  • Loyalty – traits: faithfulness, steadfastness, devoted
  • Purposefulness – traits: determined, persistent, resolute, deliberate

I’m convinced that these are the bare minimum beliefs that an individual must embrace in order to be a valued member of a pack (or team, or family). Of course, I may be somewhat jaded due to my own internal personality type…I’m and ENTJ for those of you who prescribe to the MBTI concept (see my previous post for more info on the topic), but I truly believe that these three values span all 16 personality types described by Myers-Briggs and Keirsey.

Going beyond the pack values, there are a wide variety of personal values that help form who we are and what inner voices drive us, and if you’ve taken my suggestion and done some additional research (and maybe even taken a test or two) and uncovered which of the 16 unique personality types most fits you, you will have a better sense of what additional values you deem to be “worthy”. I will not venture into what you should or should not believe in….those choices are for you to discover on your own, so take some time and think about what drives you and ask yourself if you are receiving (or providing) enough value from the values you’re holding on to.

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